It’s not your fault.
Before I dive into a blog article about sexual assault, I had to say that. You may feel like it’s your fault. Not only is that extremely common; it’s also trying to protect you from your pain, which I’ll discuss in this blog article in a moment. But it can’t be said
When I mention the idea of mindfulness meditation, of consciously sitting with ourselves and observing our own inner world, the usual response I receive is along the lines of: “I like that idea but I can’t do that, I can’t quiet my mind.”
Mind racing anxiety plus the common trauma symptom of
In case you do not know, please learn this: no harm inflicted upon you by another human being is your fault. You do not deserve it and you did nothing to deserve it. It does not reflect who you are; it is only a reflection of that persons lost and darkened soul. You
People like to put the word ‘hope’ into an imaginary place. A place of dreams and wishes. A place that isn’t ‘real.
But nothing, and I mean nothing, could be further from the truth.
If hope is anything—it is the absolute inner truth of a human being’s capacity. It is the
If you’re raising a teenager or can remember your own adolescence you know that it’s a time of profound growth, change, and vulnerability. It’s understandable that the mental health world is so focused on adolescent development and the potential trauma that teens experience as they attempt to navigate scary challenges-often without a safety net.
And yet,
I am so beyond sick of hearing from the survivors that walk into my office that they have been diagnosed with personality disorders or told that they are codependent while trying to navigate through and beyond abusive relationships.
Besides being an incorrect and shaming diagnosis, it can be extremely harmful to a survivor who is
As women we tend to take care of everyone around us, but do a poor job at taking care of ourselves.
We are expected by society to be motherly and nurturing to our children, husbands and friends, but are considered selfish and lazy if we take time for self care. Even if no one around us
Emotions. The wild and wonderful weather of our internal world. Emotions pose that classic “you can’t live with ‘em and can’t live without ‘em” dilemma. Research has proven that we feel before we think—emotions are not only part of being human, they are a necessity for decision making and learning. And for everyone I
I thank God for my handicaps. For through them, I have found myself, my work and my God.
— Helen Keller, Story of My Life
I was sad to find out that the actor Patty Duke died this week. She has always been a sort of kindred spirit to me because we both share the experience of
Where do I begin?
Who do I turn to?
Where do I look?
What now?
These are often questions that linger around trauma.
You see, facing the world after trauma can be pretty terrifying. It’s hard. It is so unbelievably hard. It’s scary and most of the time,
