I actually get this question a whole lot. My healing journey has consisted of a lot of different things, some healthy, some not so much. I have used alcohol and drugs, relationships, and self-harm as coping tools and self-care. I have also used writing, hiking, creating, and learning as coping tools and self-care.
As part of my healing journey I have done 3 years of intensive therapy, a good deal of self-reliance (to my detriment at times), and trial-by-error to get where I am today. I did 3 years of intensive therapy and then walked into a situation where therapy wasn’t allowed, it’s not been until recently that I’ve gotten back into therapy. And I have learned that I thrive in therapy. I have read an incredible amount of self-help websites, books, and blogs.