About Lindy Ariff

Lindy Ariff, LCSW is the founder of I AM A ROCKSTAR. She is a clinically trained social worker, certified hypnotherapist, and healing professional. She has nurtured and guided hundreds of clients in aligning mind, body, and soul. Visit her blog and connect with her at LindyAriff.com.

Why You Keep Dating Jerks

Recently a number of clients have asked me about patterns they’ve noticed in their relationships. They keep dating the same “type” of person… and that type isn’t “thoughtful, kind, loving, and generous, with great communication skills.” What they’ve noticed is that try as they might to change the pattern, they keep dating jerks.

There are a

12 Ways to Be Your Own Best Valentine

In my therapy practice, I’ve often noticed an increase in stress, anxiety, and depressed mood the week before Valentine’s Day.

Men and women who are not in committed relationships report feeling more vulnerable, insecure, and even “inadequate” as they face the reality that no one will be sending them flowers, candy, jewelry, or a loving card.

Loving a Trauma Survivor: Understanding Childhood Trauma’s Impact On Relationships

Survivors of childhood trauma deserve all the peace and security that a loving relationship can provide. But a history of abuse or neglect can make trusting another person feel terrifying. Trying to form an intimate relationship may lead to frightening missteps and confusion.

How can we better understand the impact of trauma, and help survivors find

Healing through Music

It was warm and breezy that afternoon in a forest nestled in the hills of New Jersey. The girls were bustling around, tiny boxes in hand, eager for the festivities to begin. It was an epic moment: this celebration of freedom was an appropriate end to a week-long journey chock-full of tears, laughter, outbursts of

Trauma Informed Care: What it is and How to Find It

These days, mental health organizations and individual practitioners are quick to throw around the term “trauma informed care” when touting the paradigms they use to treat victimized clients.

But I’m not sure that all providers and agencies really understand what “trauma informed care” means.

Certainly, many of them recognize the need to incorporate questions about the possibility

Happy New Year!

A big Happy New Year from your Rockstar Community!! Thank you for being here with us and inspiring healing and hope every day!

The start of a new year always brings to mind the idea of new beginnings. New beginnings feels like hope to me.

Together, let’s ask ourselves: In what ways will I start

Practicing Self Care Creatively

The holidays can be a trigger for those who have any unresolved trauma or grief. Having to see family can bring up all sorts of feelings, memories or sensations.

Also during the holidays, we can get overly busy and overcommit ourselves to too many things.

The path to self kindness is through pausing when unsure